【TED演讲】Taylor Swift：永远不要为自己的努力感到羞耻！(双语字幕)

• Life can be heavy, and it's important to know what to carry and what to release.
• Embrace your cringeworthy moments; they are part of life.
• Making mistakes is natural and leads to growth; don't hide your enthusiasm.
• Losing things also means gaining new experiences; it's part of the journey.
• Trust your instincts as you navigate life's choices.

Life can be heavy, especially if you try to carry it all at once. Part of growing up and moving into new chapters of your life is about catch and release.

What I mean by that is knowing what things to keep and what things to release. You can't carry all things. Decide what is yours to hold. Let the rest go. Oftentimes, the good things in your life are lighter anyway, so there's more room for them. One toxic relationship can outweigh so many wonderful, simple joys. You get to pick what your life has time and room for. Be discerning.

Secondly, learn to live alongside cringe. No matter how hard you try to avoid being cringe, you will look back on your life and cringe. Retrospectively. Cringe is unavoidable.

Over a lifetime, even the term cringe might someday be deemed cringe. I promise you, you're probably doing or wearing something right now that you will look back on later and find revolting and hilarious. You can't avoid it, so don't try to.

For example, I had a phase where for the entirety of 2012, I dressed like a 1950s housewife. But you know what? I was having fun. Trends and phases are fun. Looking back, laughing is fun.

And while we're talking about things that make us squirm but really shouldn't, I'd like to say I'm a big advocate for not hiding your enthusiasm for things. Never be ashamed of trying. Effortlessness is a myth. It was all centered around the idea that mistakes equal failure and ultimately the loss of any chance at a happy or rewarding life. This has not been my experience.

My experience has been that my mistakes led to the best things in my life. And being embarrassed when you mess up—it's part of the human experience. Getting back up, dusting yourself off, and seeing who still wants to hang out with you afterward and laugh about it—that's a gift.

The times I was told no or wasn't included, wasn't chosen, didn't win, didn't make the cut. Looking back, it really feels like those moments were as important, if not more crucial than the moments I was told yes.

Not being invited to the parties and sleepovers in my hometown made me feel hopelessly lonely. But because I felt alone, I would sit in my room and write the songs that would get me a ticket somewhere else. Having label executives in Nashville tell me that only 35-year-old housewives listened to country music and there was no place for a 13-year-old on their roster made me cry in the car, on the way home.

But then I'd post my songs on my MySpace—yes, MySpace. And I would message with other teenagers like me, who loved country music but just didn't have anyone singing from their perspective.

Being publicly humiliated over and over again at a young age was excruciatingly painful. But it forced me to devalue the ridiculous notions of minute-by-minute, ever-fluctuating social relevance and likability.

I know I sound like a consummate optimist, but I'm really not. I lose perspective all the time. Sometimes everything just feels completely pointless.

In your life, you will inevitably misspeak. Trust the wrong person. Underreact, overreact, hurt the people who didn't deserve it. Overthink, not think at all. Self-sabotage. Create a reality where only your experience exists. Ruin perfectly good moments for yourself and others. Deny any wrongdoing. Not take the steps to make it right. Feel very guilty. Let the guilt eat at you. Hit rock bottom. Finally address the pain you caused.

And I'm not gonna… These mistakes will cause you to lose things. I'm trying to tell you that losing things doesn't just mean losing a lot of the time. When we lose things, we gain things too.

Now you leave the structure and framework of school and chart your own path. Every choice you make leads to the next choice, which leads to the next. And I know it's hard to know which path to take.

There will be times in life where you need to stand up for yourself. Times when the right thing is actually to back down and apologize. Times when the right thing is to fight. Times when the right thing is to turn and run. Times to hold on with all you have and times to let go with grace.

Sometimes, the right thing to do is to throw out the old schools of thought in the name of progress and reform. Sometimes the right thing to do is to sit and listen to the wisdom of those who have come before us.

How will you know what the right choice is in these crucial moments? You won't.

How do I give advice to this many people about their life choices? I won't. The scary news is you're on your own now. But the cool news is you're on your own now.

We are led by our gut instincts, our intuition, our desires and fears, our scars and our dreams. And you will screw it up sometimes. So will I.

Anyway, hard things will happen to us. We will recover. We will learn from it. We will grow more resilient because of it. And as long as we are fortunate enough to be breathing.